By Charles Towne                           

Forgiveness is an embrace across all barriers, against all odds, involving all races, all creeds, all religions, all men, in defiance of all that is petty, mean, cruel and vindictive in this life.

Forgiveness enables us to overcome our own sins, flaws and weaknesses and ignore those of others.

Forgiveness is truly a blessed and perfect gift from God.

Christianity extolls the value and virtue of forgiveness, it reveals the magnificent and extraordinary character trait of being forgiving as a primary feature of Jesus’ character and therefore of God’s very person.

When we withhold forgiveness from another, no matter how real or imagined the wrong perceived, we are placing ourselves above HIM, above our Holy God! How could we even begin to dream of doing such a thing?

We must remember that forgiveness blesses more than the one being forgiven, for we, in the very act of forgiving, are blessed, and in that blessing, we are healed.

Forgiveness is taking seriously the awfulness of what has transpired, and it opens the door for the other person to begin again, to be healed and to know true love.  In that light how could we withhold such a life-saving gift from another?

So often we imagine the forgiveness that we offer to another is our gift to the one forgiven, but in reality, it is more God’s blessed gift to us because it is an absolute truth that we can never forgive without God first touching us with His gift of love and mercy and grace.

Without our forgiveness resentment builds in us, a resentment that turns into hostility and anger, even hatred, and this eats away at our well being and leaves us empty, a mere husk of what God intends, unable to realize the joy of a peaceful heart.

Jesus chose to die for us while we were yet sinners and His enemies, and what does He do as they are nailing Him to the cross?  He calls out to God, “Father, forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing!”

You and I have a much heavier debt of sin before God than we could ever have against one another.  If we don’t forgive a brother or sister, anyone who has wronged us, we should pray in terror every time we ask our Holy God to forgive us.

If we refuse to forgive those who have offended us, by that very act of being unforgiving we are asking God to hold our sins to our account and condemn us to be eternally separated from Him.  Please dear one, think of that for a moment and let it sink in.

Forgiveness serves our spiritual interest by preventing bitterness from clouding our ability to love.  Three little words, “I forgive you” mean so very, very much, almost as much as, “please Father, forgive me.”

“O God, dear Father, mighty one, healer, comforter, provider, please forgive me as I forgive others.”  Oh, what a terrible prayer that is, for if by chance I have not forgiven my brother than I am asking God not to forgive me!

If on the other hand, I forgive, and that forgiveness is based on genuine brotherly love, I have every right to expect to be forgiven by Him from whom genuine forgiveness originates and radiates, and that my dear friend is really what Christianity is all about


Father, right now, at this moment in time please help me to be like my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who came to this old sin-ridden earth and who lived and died a terrible death that I may have life more abundantly, and who rose again to glory everlasting, for only in this will I ever know true and lasting peace and happiness.  Thank you O Mighty God!  Thanks for loving me, for teaching me, yes, and yes, for forgiving me, and lastly, for giving me peace.  In Jesus’ most wonderful name I pray this, Amen

Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.


  1. Beautiful. Forgiveness is so powerful, isn’t it? Here is some more food for thought:
    I often pose these questions to my patients…”Who do you need to forgive to move forward? If you were able to forgive, how would your life be different?”

  2. Oh, Right on NH! In my own life I have come to realize that without forgiveness there can be little or no growth. Another thing important to remember is that not everybody progresses at the same speed! Just because I am ready to forgive doesn’t mean others are. Boy, books could be written on this subject couldn’t they? Dear God, help me to be as patient with others as you are patient with me. Amen. Blessings on you and yours dear friend. Chaz

  3. Not only is forgiveness important, but In my own experience I have found it to be essential for my christian growth and development. Sometimes we like to hang on to certain wrongs as though they were treasures! I mean, if I have been wronged it is only reasonable and right for me to hold that slight close to my heart and treasure it, right? God, forgive me as I forgive others.

    • Dear Friend, asking for forgiveness from a perfect God is a frightening thing if we aren’t willing to forgive! Bless you, chaz

    • Dear Friend, asking for forgiveness from a perfect God is a frightening thing if we aren’t willing to forgive! Yes, if we love we must be loving, if we want something we must give in like coin! Bless you, chaz

    • EJ, YOU ARE SO VERY RIGHT. Carrying a grudge is so sad because the person we are angry at usually not even aware why we are angry. Love is the secret. Bless you with much love, Chaz

  4. Sometimes is it not easy to forgive but one must remember that forgiveness is far easier to give than carrying a grudge.

  5. Mike, wiser words would be hard to find. Some folks carry a grudge until until until that seems all they have room for. Sad, very sad. You have a good life with many long blessings, Chaz

  6. True joy and peace cannot be
    in your heart if you refuse to
    forgive others. I heard a wise
    Pastor once say…
    “Unforgiveness does more harm
    to the vessel in which it is stored,
    than that on which it is poured”
    That is so true!!
    Lord, help us to be more like you each day. God bless you, Chuck.

  7. EJ, what an example Jesus has been for us when He requested of the God, “Father, forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing.” Resentment, anger, and unforgiveness are deadly poisons that slay the one that refuses to let them go. Blessings on you my friend. Chaz

  8. CSG, as we love let us love. As we forgive let us be forgiven. As we show mercy may mercy be shown to us. Bless you dear heart. Chaz

  9. There are individuals who are burdened with such deep feelings of inferiority, that they create a false reality – one in which they blame others for their failures. They claim to forgive yet are incapable of true forgiveness because this would require them to face their false self. God understands this, knows our innermost parts and understands. . . and forgives because God does not possess a false self.

  10. A beautiful and much needed lesson in today’s world. Forgiveness does not mean, ” I no longer wish you harm and will not actively try to hurt you back! ” I was taught it means that I must no longer remember the hurt and/or pain that occurred and actively try my best to help that former offender in each and every way I can! To try my best to make an old foe a new friend! Truth be told this is not easy for us mortals and indeed seems like a stupid idea! Forgive and forget is a goal to which we should all strive because to forgive and not forget is not forgiving at all! As you so correctly point out, the prayer says forgive us as we forgive others! This is unbelievably beautiful or it can be unimaginably terrifing! God Bless you my friend.

  11. Richard, Yes, yes, yes!!! You got the point pal! As so often happens our humanity gets in our wayso often happens and we are crass enough to want to hold on to the slight. If we could only realize that unforgiveness is so cruel, it is the same as wishing the other person dead. Blessings my friend Chaz

  12. Judith Hankes, most miserable are those that are so insecure that they must place their own weaknesses on others in order to boost their own ego. Please Father, give me the heart of Jesus. Help me to love the unlovable and heal them. Bless you and yours, Chaz

  13. Forgivness is something we should a!l strive for because all persons in one way or another feel they have been wronged at sometime in their life. If we do not forgive, we resent and eventually even seek revenge and there us much truth in that saying, ” Before you start on a journey of revenge, dig two graves! “! You speak words we all need to hear in a voice we all need to listen to! God is always with you my friend.

  14. Dimitri my friend, your words are wise, and oh so true! Slander seems to be a form of murder that slays the innocent and gives the guilty little or no satisfaction. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable in your sight o Lord, my strength and my redeemer.” Bless you my friend, Chaz

  15. The concept of forgiveness is common to all major religions. Oral or mental forgiveness help cleans the soul. I have tried to instill in my children and grandchildren not to “Burn the Bridge” because lack of forgiveness causes mental anguish, hate and necessitates revenge. Keep then comingCharlie

  16. Herb, it is a dreadful prayer when we ask God to forgive us as we forgive others because that prayer require our forgiveness if we want forgiveness. Please Papa God , forgive us as we forgive others. Bless you my brother, Chaz

  17. Forgiveness … Action created my young brother by GOD, definitely !!! When we forgive we really get of the rid of the weight that the resentment we carry … Life free us of sorrows, lies and fills us with friend, Pals and really Good Things … GOD Bless the Earth

  18. Leo, you are so right pal, carrying a grudge or the weight of anger will destroy us, so forgiveness and love is the secret. Bless you my friend, Chaz


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