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By Charles Towne

In my 80 plus years I have learned a few valuable, life-changing lessons.  Yes, some of these lessons are actually life-changing.  And, some are a work of a lifetime and take much practice.

These lessons I now share with you.

(1) One of the lessons I learned was from one of our presidents, and it behooves all of us to remember and apply it today.  As you might remember, John F. Kennedy said, “Think not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.”

(2) Listen, don’t talk. Listen!

(3) The sign of true greatness is to serve others.

(4) Always accept responsibility for your mistakes.

(5) Always tell the truth.

(6) Be forgiving; never hold a grudge.

(7)  Be thoughtful and considerate of others.

(8) Do things for others without expecting anything in return.

(9) Don’t give or take offense.

(10) Remember, life is beautiful; beautiful in its bounty, and bountiful in its beauty.

(11)  “It isn’t whether you win or lose, but how you play the game.” Grantland Rice,  American sportswriter, died on July 13, 1954.

(12) Always make others feel important.

(13) Never forget that God doesn’t make junk.  That concerns others as well as yourself.

(14) Never forget that your God loves you.

(15) Always be lavish in your praise and stingy in you criticism.

(16) Be a giver, not a taker.

(17) It doesn’t cost any more to smile, but it pays greater dividends.

(18) We are given the power to build up. Always build up!

(19) Always affirm others.

(20) Treat others as worthy of trust.

(21) Remember, every person has some admirable character traits.

(22) Laugh with others, not at them.

(23) I realize that I am repeating myself but it bears repeating.  Being a good listen is the greatest part of being a good communicator.

(24) Use memories, but do not allow memories to use you.

(25) Remember, the number one cause of premature death is not heart disease or high blood pressure, it is lack of purpose.

(26) It is an absolute fact of physiology that there is a rush of healing chemicals released by genuine love.

(27) The acronym for fear is, False Evidence Appearing Real! We would all do well to remember that Papa God is in control and He loves you with an undying love.

Dear Papa God, you are my unreachable dream placed within my grasp. You are the untouchable at the fingertips of my mind. You are my God. O Holy and infinite seeker after my soul, Hound of heaven, I don’t understand it but I know your love for me is real. Praise you, O Holy One, praise you to all creatures. In Jesus name I ask this, knowing that it is destined to be mine, Amen


Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.


  1. I love this article so much that I posted it on my Facebook page:) Keep the positive words and supportive reflections coming….your readers need them!
    Thank you my dear friend and fellow nature enthusiast!

    • Beautiful article Chuck! Well worth reading, remembering, and applying in our lives! Being born and raised in Wisconsin I feel I should point out that Vince Lombardi would disagree with rule #11, concerning rule #27 does that apply to bears? Because bears will kill you and that is not false information! And lastly, you forgot a rule that my brother took unbounded glee in teaching me, do not touch a spark plug of a running engine with a metal screwdriver!
      God bless you my friend and get well quickly!

      • Richard old pal, when it comes to that nice little spark plug thing it reminds me of peeing on an electric fence, really fun! Bless you, Chaz

  2. Dear NH, We are all impressed by the definite need of positive words during these strange times. Keep looking up and trust Pap God, Bless you dear friend. Chaz

  3. What a great reminder!
    I know we have heard these before, but it is so important to keep them in our thoughts , words and actions daily. God help us to live by these each and everyday
    and keep you as our focus.
    Thank you, Chuck.
    May God bless you!

  4. Another excellent article sir – one that I intend to share via a link to it. There are two others lessons that I have learned that I will share. 1) When pointing a finger of blame it is best to remember that three fingers are pointing back at you; 2) In order to lend a hand you must first lend an ear. The second is just another way to reinforce good communications which one can never stress enough the importance of. I so look forward to you articles – keep them coming.

    • Dear Mike, what sort of sound does a dodo bird make? And if you can answer that question you are a lot older than I think you are. A life spent speaking gibberish and performing like an idiot is bound to teach even a dodo bird something, even if is no more than to avoid extinction. They never did learn did they? Blessings on you pal, Chaz

  5. Proverbs 20:15 “Wise speech is rarer and more valuable than gold and rubies.”
    You’ve shared a treasure trove with us….thank you.

  6. Amen!!!! I will add one more that I read years ago, I believe it was an Amish quote…bears repeating….” Choose thy Love, Love thy Choice!” Our world could use a lot more of that!!

  7. These gems remind me of the advice promoted in Alcoholics Anonymous’ “Big Book.” If you’ve never read the AA “Big Book,” it’s worth the read. I read it when, as a member of Alanon, I helped my husband battle alcoholism. One take-away from the program is that we are all connected, are more alike than unalike, all feel sadness, all a blessed by helping others..

  8. Judith, that we are all connected and inter-connected is no small thing but an act of love and grace through Jesus. We are given that we may bless others. There is little or no original thought in the world, but that truth which has gone before is to bless all. The bible tells us that all good things come from God. Bless you sis, Chaz

  9. I agree with 100%, listening is probably the most important and the most under used skill in communicating! It brings to mind a vividly descriptive quote that applied to most adults, especially my father, when dealing with me as a child, and that would be, “Shut up! He explained” .

  10. Richard, your daddy bought astuteness to a very fine degree of perfection! When I was a little boy kid a customary saying used by every adult was that old one, “Children are supposed to be seen but not heard.” Life is good aint it? Bless you pal, Chaz

  11. Another winner! This one I will print out and post it where I can review it often. #14 Never forget that God loves you is so important! Some people search all their lives, and seem to to never find it. Love your neighbor as yourself! I knew a man, now deceased, that would carry a $50 dollar bill around at Christmas time He may have gotten the idea from something he read, I’m not sure. He would look for someone that seemed to be real needy, and then just walk up to them and give it to them. The last time he did this was when a Mother was telling her children that “This Christmas was going to be a lean one”. He simply walked up to her and gave her the $50 and walked away!

  12. Dear Don, about the time that all we can see is despair the day arrives when out of the clear a good man appears and gives us hope. In reality that is the story of jesus, always blessing us, always coming to the rescue. What you were seeing was jesus in that man,s loving act. What an act of mercy. God is not finished with us yet, not by a long shot. Bless you my dear friend, Chaz

  13. Charlie, this was one great article. Suzette and I think it was so wonderful that we are going to copy it, with your permission, and send it to the children and grandchildren. Keep them coming.

  14. Dear Herb and Susette, there is a lot more to come! By all means send it to the family. If it makes folks think it is definitely a good thing and that is why I write. Bless you both. Chaz


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