By Charles Towne 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Thank you Papa God for giving Nanny to me, not for just one day, but for a lifetime.  I thank you for my darling, my wife, my Nancy with the smiling face.

O God, my merciful and Holy friend, Nanny is an absolute wonder, one of your miracles of grace and joy.

Due to the Alzheimer’s disease, she might be a bit childlike at times, but then there are so many of those around us that are acting so darned “mature” they have forgotten what it is to be as little children, and who wants to be around grumpy old poops like that?

The world is so full of gnarly old gas bombs that seem determined to spread misery like a plague so it’s nice to be around someone like Nancy who likes to smile and giggle as she watches little children at play, or at the antics of a butterfly, or for the sheer joy of laughing and praises God’s handiwork no matter how simple, and whether I deserve it or not, I know for a certainty that she loves me.

While illness has perhaps made her more innocent, it has made her more gracious at the same time.

Nancy smiles and praises God when other folks, supposedly with everything going for them, are frowning and complaining.  It’s too bad that happiness isn’t contagious.  If it was, my Nanny would be the “Typhoid Mary” of happiness.

She finds a reason to laugh when others are griping, crabbing, and moaning.

She forgets so many things, but so far, she remembers my name.

It might be dark, but there is always a light in my sweetheart’s eyes that illuminates my world like the stars of night, and when she whispers, “I love you!” I am thrilled and my heart overflows with joy.

Nancy demands little, expects little, asks for little, is content with little, but gives much.

My Nanny has Multiple Sclerosis, and Alzheimer’s Disease and I am probably going to be in God’s kingdom because of her.

Yes, she teaches me: she teaches me patience, mercy, tenderness, compassion.  These are just some of the things she is teaching me, and though I am a slow learner, praise Papa God, I am learning.

This then is my wife, my Nanny, and I love her so very much.  Again, I say thank you, Father, for gifting me with my darling, my sweetheart, my precious lady, my wife.


Thank you Papa God for putting me where I am.  I thank you for leading me, for guiding me; for all that you are doing in my life to create in me what you want me to be.  Help all of us caregivers to be what you want us to be.  Help us to smile in the darkness, to hear your voice in a chaotic and raucous world, to feel your presence, and to bathe in your love, in Jesus’ holy, sweet and wonderful name, Amen

Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.


  1. Dear Judith, you are so very right. The blessing of Adversity? Can it be that the perception of life’s difficulties as blessings instead of curses is the root of true happiness? Sort of a strange concept and one that most of us have a difficulty grasping. It is not that we prospect for hardship, and rejoice when we discover it, on the contrary, for hardship finds us and it is perhaps in our ability to see the good that waits on the other side of that hardship where we find the greatest blessing. Oh well? Help us O Lord to keep on keeping on. Blessings on you and yours. Chaz

  2. Mike, thanks pal. It pleases me that you were blessed in the reading. We guys need to let our wives know how much they are appreciated. If we had a clue that there might come a day when we are separated by sickness or death would we so willingly run into marriage? Yes, we would, because the human heart needs that other heart to really be complete. You are blessed my friend as is Sharyn to have each other. Chaz

  3. Dear N.H., we are blessed far and above what is reasonable every day of our lives! To be able to know and be known. To love and be loved, this is God’s great gift to man. When my Nanny smiles at me and whispers, “I love you!”, I am blessed beyond measure. Chaz

  4. How beautiful, Chuck!
    Not everyone is blessed to find a love like yours. I am one of the lucky ones too, but not luck…it was God’s blessings on us.
    Nancy is a precious soul, a delight to talk to. I pray the two of you have a wonderful Christmas, full of Jesus!
    God bless!

  5. Dear CSG, what I find perplexing are those marriages that seemingly have everything going for them and yet for lack of something, call it will, or perhaps intestinal fortitude, or perhaps there is something missing in their character, they fail. A successful marriage doesn’t just happen, it is a labor of love. Perhaps it is a combination of love, patience, much prayer, and a desire to see it work? My folks were married for 72 years. They each made mistakes. They both had their failings and weaknesses, but… they were there for each other at the end. We were blessed. God love you dear friend, Chaz

  6. Although you have spoken glowingly of Nanny with me before, your gift of committing you feeling into words is definitely G-D given. Thank you for being my friend.

  7. AHH, and that is the secret, Nanny is definitely a gift from Papa God. Friendship is a gift we give to the world, others, and ourselves. Kind of neat when you think of it like that isn’t it? Blessings on you pal, Chaz

  8. You always get the best presents from the one who loves you most!
    You are truly blessed my friend! What an great love story for the season and all year long!

  9. Richard my friend, isn’t it the truth? And our heavenly Father is so very anxious to to give us good gifts. He wants to treat each of us as a favorite child, but, We ask for little and we receive little. On the other side of that coin, if we ask for much, believing, we are blessed with much. For much of my life I ran when things got tough, not realizing that anytime I ran away from something that threatened me, I was running toward an even greater threat. It is sort of like trying to escape a raging grizzly bear by leaping off a thousand foot cliff. I almost ran away from Nancy but decided to stay and see it through, and in that decision I have discovered strengths in myself that I never realized were there, and at the same time I found great love. Nanny may be diminished in some ways, but she loves me, not always, because this is not a perfect world, but, she loves me. Bless you my friend, Chaz

  10. Chuck, Father God has blessed you with the gift of a loving Wife! Care Giving is never easy, but the good times together more than make up for the difficult times. Nancy loves to praise God, and she always seems to remember the songs and words. I pray that God will continue to bless you with the time to continue showing the world what it means to be loving care giver! You are an inspiration to me and when your Care Giver book is published, I want to purchase one.

  11. Don, are you ever right when you say caregiving is never easy. Actually it, caregiving, is probably the most difficult and challenging endeavor I have ever been faced with, and yet at the same time it is the most rewarding. It has been my experience that many times family abandons that one that needs help when they need it the most. What does no contact from family members indicat? That the family members simply don’t give a damn? Or perhaps they are too busy? Or they just don’t care? Nan’s family has abandoned her. Mother, father, sister, brother, son? Months and years can pass without any contact. Now her folks have died. How can people abandon one they claim to love? I love my Nanny and I know she loves me. Blessing Don, and thanks. Chaz


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