By Charles Towne                        

I have been Nancy’s caregiver for the majority of the last 18 years, but then Alzheimer’s disease came a-visiting.

As the disease progressed my capability to cope with it became more difficult, until I found myself unable to cope and I had to face the very real possibility of placing her in a full time nursing facility.

I am talking about my sweetheart here, my wife, my precious, sweet, Nancy.

Visiting her on a daily basis became routine, perhaps taking an occasional meal with her. 

Maybe we would sit and watch a video together (she loves the old black and whites.)  And then I would tuck her in, kiss her goodnight, and drive home to work on my latest writing endeavor before crawling into bed, alone. 

I couldn’t see anything else but more of the same routine. Until now. This last Sunday I was informed that all visitor’s rights would be curtailed for at least two weeks.

We have been together for nearly twenty five years now, so this restriction places a bit of cramp in my style, if you know what I mean?  

I have been accustomed to visiting my wife on a daily basis now for the last two and a half years. I can barely tolerate being separated from my sweetie. And with that thought I realize maybe just a little bit of what it must be like for a patient today, what with the isolation, the uncertainty, the ongoing confusion, the fear of the unknown, and the many questions that seem to have no real answers.

We have all heard that terrible word, EPIDEMIC!  But now a new word comes along, PANDEMIC, and it threatens all that we hold dear…or does it?

Papa God encourages us in His word to, “Fear not, for I am with you, I will not leave you not forsake you, for I am your God!”   The word also tells us in these uncertain but exciting times, “Perfect peace have they that love thy law for nothing shall offend them.”  I wonder if the law the writer refers to could be the greatest Law, LOVE?

Dear Papa God, dear Heavenly Father, please hold us close and help each of us to remember that you love us with an undying love and nothing will, or can, separate us from you.  In Jesus’ most wonderful and Holy name we ask it, Amen

Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.


  1. I believe this pandemic is making it painfully clear to hold dear what we love the most. It is highlighting those that mean the most and going back to our basic values…..I still have HOPE for the human heart and what it is capable of doing. God Bless my dear friend.

  2. Dear NH, I am on the same page as you are my friend! I believe that Papa God can turn evil to good for His children. His word tells us that “ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD FOR THEM THAT LOVE MY LAW… AND NOTHING SHALL OFFEND THEM.” It also tells us, “AND EVEN THIS SHALL PASS AWAY!” Bless you both, in Christian love. Keep looking up! Chaz

  3. Well, now is a good time to slow down our busy lives and trust God to watch over us! Schools in Topeka Ks have been closed for the rest of the school year. Some restaurants have changed to take out only, from a drive by window. And, most businesses have curtailed their open hours, and a few have simply closed down. This is a good time to dust off the family Bible and read about how much God loves us!

  4. Don, my dear friend and brother in Jesus, aint it the truth? This is a time for prayer, for men to search their hearts and perhaps start again. This is a time for reflection, for us all to re-examine our lives and to reach out to grasp the spiritual. We have been self seekers for far too long. God bless each of us and help us to draw near to you, in Jesus Holy name we ask it, Amen.

  5. Yes indeed, it is a difficult time…
    the MOST difficult I have ever been in. Adjusting to not being able to have lunch with friends or go to the movies, even workout at the gym has been very frustrating.
    But what I have learned is that I can now spend time on things that
    I love, but never felt I had time for.
    I am spending more time talking on the phone with friends and relatives, gardening, doing some projects around the house and even enjoying hobbies again.
    As far as not being able to visit those in care facilities and hospitals, I have decided to get some cheery cards to mail or make a vase with a few inexpensive flowers or even 2 or 3 balloons. These can be dropped off at the front desk and delivered by facility staff. It may not be as good as a personal visit, but it is
    a nice gesture to bring a little ray of sunshine to those stuck in an unfortunate situation right now.
    It is a visual reminder that they are loved and we will get through this.
    Thank you, Lord, for being in control no matter how bad things seem. We are grateful for your love and are so relieved that none of this turmoil surprises you. It is all in your plan. We will get through all of this, just have faith.


  7. I am so sorry you are virtually cut off from Nancy. I think we both believe that she is entering the end stage of the Alzheimer’s scourge. The most important thing is your health, your metal state and your belief in the power of G-D. I so enjoy our telephone conversations. Stay well.

    • Herbert, as much as I miss my darling and want to be with her I applaud Advent Health, and especially Florida Living nursing center for being proactive during this emergency. This is the reason I placed Nanny in this particular nursing home, I knew that in an emergency such as this she would be taken care of. This is a temporary medical situation that calls for us all to be patient and cooperative. God bless you all, Chaz

  8. On my, What is one to do? The Russians, those who endured Stalin, and the shortages of the Soviet era, who would wait 3 or 4 hours in line for a load of bread, have a proverb that roughly translates as, ” Ah well, one can even get used to hell! ” Our grandparents who endured the rationing of the WWII, they all of them endured! They stood together, they helped one another as they were able, they did not enjoy but they kept their faith and their faith kept them in return! I know you have heard that God will not allow trials greater than we can endure but I believe, and moreover I know we will get through this and one day soon you will walk into the nursing home and that lovely lady Nancy will look up and smile and say, “Who the hell are you?” I love you my brother, enjoy the plums!

  9. Richard, I remember the depression era well but not as difficult, as perhaps challenging, just more and more challenges! People, all people are resilient, and we usually bounce when we fall. How fortunate we are, yes, how very fortunate we are. Bless you and yours pal, Chaz

  10. Good evening Chuck Towne, I told Debi i found you on this thread and she also read the bear story. She said she remembered the story you told her of the king cobra bite treatment with the tazer she believes. We have also been practicing a great amount of alternative medicine in our mid 60s. Anyway we will continue to enjoy your writings. We recently lost Debis mother to alzeimers and she was staying in the home behind the old church. A lot of what you talk about rings very close to home for us. Thank you.

  11. Bob and Debi, Blessings on you dear folks. I am so sorry about the loss of Debi’s mama. Alzheimer’s is a sad disease. I have been taking care of my dear Nancy now for about 20 years but she still knows who I am. The story about the snake bite involved a large diamondback rattlesnake, not a cobra, different venom, different reaction. Give me a call sometime, 407-886-7787. May Papa God bless you and yours, Chuck


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