By Charles Towne
We all have some form of emotional garbage that we cling to in spite of the fact it does us terrible harm Some of us I fear are like Gollum, the pathetic little creature in the Hobbit that ends up perishing in the fires of Mt. Doom rather than surrender his “precious,” the ring that almost destroys Frodo.
What is your precious?
It is unlikely that it is a possession, most likely it is a habit we are lugging around. It might well be a secret but then, maybe not? History is what has happened to us in the past, garbage is how we allow it to affect our lives.” Yes, we all have history. The ideal family is a myth… families are made up of crippled, insecure people each lugging around his or her own bag of putrid corruption. Yes, we ALL have our share of garbage, the issue is how do we dispose of it? Garbage is that stinky stuff that too many of us carry around as though it were a precious treasure. Remember, garbage is garbage. It is smelly stuff that if not disposed of will contaminate every aspect of our lives. How do we dispose of our emotional garbage?
(1) Don’t delay, start today! I carried my garbage with me most of my life and had to finally make a conscious decision to take out the trash. (I haven’t arrived yet but I am working on it.)
(2) Finding a support group that you can trust to keep a confidence is important, or consult with a counselor. I know a woman that has held anger hate and animosity for her mother (for real or imagined wrongs) for most of her life until the garbage that she insists on carrying around with her and sharing whenever the opportunity presents itself threatens to destroy her, yes, her hate has infected her entire life like a deadly cancer.
(3) WE MUST STOP THE BLAME GAME!
(4) Forgive. If you do not forgive, you are the one doomed to carry the bitterness and anger. without forgiveness we will never heal.
(5) For me, this was the most important. In order for me to forgive I had to go to the one I could trust and ask Him to forgive me. In order for me to really let go, I had to surrender my garbage, and lay it at the feet of Jesus Christ, He is able to handle it and dispose of it beyond recall.
And make a difference, today.
Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.