Inspiration

By Charles Towne

We all have some form of emotional garbage that we cling to in spite of the fact it does us terrible harm   Some of us I fear are like Gollum, the pathetic little creature in the Hobbit that ends up perishing in the fires of Mt. Doom rather than surrender his “precious,” the ring that almost destroys Frodo.

What is your precious?

It is unlikely that it is a possession, most likely it is a habit we are lugging around. It might well be a secret but then, maybe not?   History is what has happened to us in the past, garbage is how we allow it to affect our lives.”   Yes, we all have history.  The ideal family is a myth… families are made up of crippled, insecure people each lugging around his or her own bag of putrid corruption. Yes, we ALL have our share of garbage, the issue is how do we dispose of it?  Garbage is that stinky stuff that too many of us carry around as though it were a precious treasure.  Remember, garbage is garbage.  It is smelly stuff that if not disposed of will contaminate every aspect of our lives. How do we dispose of our emotional garbage?

(1) Don’t delay, start today!   I carried my garbage with me most of my life and had to finally make a conscious decision to take out the trash.  (I haven’t arrived yet but I am working on it.)

(2) Finding a support group that you can trust to keep a confidence is important, or consult with a counselor. I know a woman that has held anger hate and animosity for her mother (for real or imagined wrongs) for most of her life until the garbage that she insists on carrying around with her and sharing whenever the opportunity presents itself threatens to destroy her, yes, her hate has infected her entire life like a deadly cancer.

(3) WE MUST STOP THE BLAME GAME!

(4) Forgive. If you do not forgive, you are the one doomed to carry the bitterness and anger.  without  forgiveness we will never heal.

(5)  For me, this was the most important.  In order for me to forgive I had to go to the one I could trust and ask Him to forgive me. In order for me to really let go, I had to surrender my garbage, and lay it at the feet of Jesus Christ, He is able to handle it and dispose of it beyond recall.

Live fully,
Love openly
And make a difference, today.


Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.

15 COMMENTS

  1. Dear Charles, First of all, I LOVE your description of family. I am laughing out loud right now! And a very big THANK YOU for encouraging everyone to unload this proverbial garbage with a counselor. Externalizing these concerns with a trusted person usually takes away it’s power. It’s amazing how healing it is to unload and unpack with a safe and trusted person that is able to validate your feelings. AMEN and time to clean house!!

  2. Dear NH, one issue i failed to mention is the fact that mental garbage, the type discussed in the column, usually involves others, those others that like it or not could not care less or in many instances are unaware of our angst, our feelings. The lady I mention above wears her hate like a prayer shawl in spite of the fact that her mother has been dead for years. I guess what it boils down to is if we expect to be forgiven we must forgive. Forgiveness brings with it an incredible peace, and isn’t that something we all yearn for? Blessings on you and yours my friend, Chaz

  3. After a long day the Beautiful Sun sets on ALL of us. Then The Dark KNIGHT takes over BUT GOD GIVES. us the PEACE of Sleep!! Thanks Charles, Love Sun Morning Looking at A P V. Inspriation!

  4. EJ, ISN’T GOD GOOD PAL? TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND REMEMBER, “SUFFICIENT UNTO THE DAY IS THE EVIL THEREOF.” I HAVE WALKED LIFE’S PATH LONG ENOUGH TO REALIZE THAT WHEN i COME ACROSS A BOULDER IN THAT PATH, IF AT ALL POSSIBLE i CAN ROLL THE BOULDER ASIDE TO MAKE IT EASIER FOR THE PERSON FOLLOWING ME. AND, IF THE BOULDER IS TOO LARGE FOR ME TO MOVE I CAN MAKE A NEW EASIER MORE BEAUTIFUL PATH. LET ME BE A BLESSING AND NEVER A CURSE. May you be blessed my friend, Chaz

  5. Great read as always Chuck and I love the five steps especially number five. I wasn’t able to truley accept Christ until I completely surrendered to his grace. God bless you and yours my friend.

  6. It is unbelievable how people hold on to negative, hurtful things, but we all do to a degree. Maybe it just feels overwhelming to work at removing garbage from our life, from our mind. Afterall, it does take work and persistence. Maybe some people don’t realize they are carrying it around, until it has been there for quite awhile. Maybe for some people, it is just easier to keep pushing it down everytime it rears its ugly head, rather than face the pain to clean it out. I do know from personal experience that the sooner you clean house, the better. Satan is delighted to keep you in bondage.
    Afterall, the Bible says he “comes to steal, kill and destroy”
    Our Heavenly Father is waiting for us to ask him to help and only He can heal you from wounds and scars. Why not make the rest of your life, the best of your life.
    Now let’s get out the broom, the vacuum cleaner or even a chisel and start living life to the fullest.

  7. Love this article! So true and so important. It’s so helpful to realize that most families are quite difficult, just as you say, so we can know we are not alone in having to overcome the damage. I remember being so judgmental towards my mom (for about 40 years!) and guess what? I ended up doing many of the same things I judged and criticized her for doing. Thank God and Jesus, though, that they brought me to forgiveness for both her and myself. One of the greatest blessings of my life was learning to LOVE my mom and actually treasure her. Forgiveness is truly mandatory if we are to have peace.

  8. Dear CSG, realizing the need is so very important for without that first step there can be no real healing. Another issue and perhaps the most difficult is claiming the problem, accepting the responsibility for control There comes a time when we must shout out loud and clear that no longer are we going to be the victim! No more are we going to allow a situation, a habit, or a person to control our lives. Today is the day that we claim victory! Circumstances that have perhaps held me in bondage are no longer going to do so! I am free. I am going to start today because Jesus Christ has given me victory. If perhaps I stumble and fall it only means I stumbled and fell, it is not the end! O God, please remind me of your incredible love and forgiveness, hold me close and help me to realize that I am no longer a victim. Victory is within our grasp. Blessings, Chaz

  9. Kristin, isn’t it the truth? I have discovered in my somewhat frustrating existence that I tend to be like that which I detest most! But, as I pray for victory, for the mind and character of Christ I find that the fails, yes, the falls, the boo boos, the mix ups and mistakes are less frequent and each victory is cause for celebration and rejoicing. We humans are really complex aren’t we? God bless you dear one, Chaz

  10. I remember a slight chuckle when I proposed that noone is ever totally useless, they can always be a bad example! After reading your article, I thought that those who can not give up their “precious” are deatined to become those examples!! I forget who, but a long time ago someone explained it is very important to understand the difference between “cost” and “value”! Is your “precious” worth your relationship wit Papa God????

  11. Hey Richard, how many of those we refer to as, “others” seem to be so tightly wired to their “PRECIOUSES” be they habits or possessions, that they, those, “others” seem to find it almost impossible to relinquish “control” when in reality they are being controlled by their ‘darlings”. Thanks a lot pal, Chaz

  12. Great piece Chuck. I especially like the point of stopping the blame game. I once heard that a person needs to remember that when one points at another three finger are pointing back at you.

  13. Good point mike! Not only that but when we examine, really look deep at issues that plague us, so often those issues are self induced, yeah, I know, we don’t like to admit it but when we are bugged by any sneaky little lie or deceit it must be something outside of ourselves, after all, it CAN’T be me. Self examination is not easy, it calls for honesty and an admission of our own humanity. Those accusing fingers you speak of can actually be positive because they often place the focus where it belongs. This is not to say we are always wrong or to blame, just to help us realize that there are usually two sides to every story. Well, enough of that for now, you take care my friend, Chaz

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