Inspiration

By Charles Towne

CONSIDER THIS…

Do you know what it is like to suffer, or have you realized the great difficulty in your life?  Perhaps you have faced great deprivation or illness. Or maybe you have been cast into the role of caring for an afflicted loved one.  How do you, or did you handle it? Did you run away? I was a runner for most of my life. When life became difficult… I ran. But, I no longer run.

History loves to record the names of men who conquered the malice of their fate by the spirit and principle of the second mile.  There was blind Huber who went against all odds and became a great scientist, or blind Fawcett who became the postmaster general of England.  

Have you done anything great in your life?  

How about Cervantes using imprisonment to begin his classic work, “Don Quixote,” or Bunyan glorifying Bedford jail and honoring God with his work, “Pilgrim’s Progress.”

I like the idea that every honest piece of work, no matter how humble is cooperation with God in building the universe!  What do you think?

Here I am approaching my 85th. year.  My darling wife Nancy is in a nursing home suffering from Alzheimer’s disease as well as multiple sclerosis and the prognosis is bleak.  Do I want her there? No! A thousand times no!

I go in each day and spend time with my sweetie.

I suppose I am learning that the way to avoid the slavishness of necessity is to be willing, if possible, to do more than is demanded.  Yes, this is called, “going the second mile.”

There are those dear ones that sit day after day waiting, yearning for their family members to visit,  to no avail.

I wonder how our Holy God considers the abandonment of our loved ones?  Certainly, He is not pleased.

But, when I walk into the nursing home and Nancy sees me her face lights up with great joy and That is glory itself, it is like Papa God himself is smiling at me.


Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.

20 COMMENTS

  1. Oh how well I understand this!
    True love and total commitment is what the second mile is made up of….and being dedicated to pleasing the Lord. Let’s remember to lift up those who are waiting for someone to come visit them. Pray for them everyday and give them a smile when you pass by.
    Thank you Jesus, for keeping us
    kind and ever mindful of others.
    Bless you Chuck…you and your sweet wife, Nancy!

  2. Dear CSG, thank you so very much for Your words and for your willingness fo putting those words into action. Help each of us to live the principle of the second mile in all that we do. Blessings on you and yours dear friend, Chaz

  3. I love this article. I love that it is about courage, facing our fears, and doing what is right. The second mile is never easy and is really not much fun but doesn’t it feel good after that lap is completed? Blessings Charles!

  4. There is something heroic about those that cheerfully go that second mile. Don was a second miler of an extraordinary magnitude. He was Betty’s caregiver for over fifty years. His attitude was always uplifting and encouraging. No matter what was demanded of him he loved her through those tough times. There is something amazing, almost superhuman about this type of love. Let it be said of us that we loved with a Holy, Godlike love. Thanks NH, Chaz

  5. Dear friend, I know your about you longing since, as you know, I was a caregiver for such a long time. At first I felt sorry for my self as I was house bound as was Shelley. Then G-D showed me, though a friend, that this was the most noble thing that I could do for my love of my life. Keep them coming.

  6. Herb, oh yes, and an excellent caregiver you were for your wife my friend. Shelley appreciated you and everything you did for her. Bless you and yours always, Chaz

  7. Hi Charles, you, Don, and Herb are such great examples of loving and committed spouses. It helps the rest of us see how it might be for us as we age with our own spouses and what might be required. Thanks for being a role model and an inspiration!

  8. My dear friend Kristin, it is people like you that inspire me. There is nothing I want more than to set a believable example for marriages, families everywhere. Jesus is our example always. My Nancy has a son, he has abandoned his mama. Why? Because some poor souls seem to not be able to tolerate sickness among their families. Nancy is deserving of much love and that is what I am here for. Bless you dear one, Chaz

  9. Charles, we make a promise when we marry to care for one another without knowing what we are promising to do and who will be caring for whom. That’s life. But it is an honor to care for the one who made the same promise to us. Besdies, it’s a gift of love. Cheering you on and on, Ernie

  10. Dr Bursey, you are so right. Loving and caring for another is certainly praiseworthy. Each day when I visit my lady I realize all the more her beauty of character. Let us reflect Him that first loved us. Thank you so very much. Bless you and your darling, Chaz

  11. At the gym (remember that place?) I see people working very hard to improve their physical strength. Yes, sometimes physical strength is required to help loved ones in need, but most often it is mental strength from our faith in God that enables us to go the extra mile(s). Please give Nancy a hug for us.

  12. Mike, so often the caregiver is worn down to a nubbin and becomes diminished physically, spiritually, and mentally. When this happens we are unable to render the care our loved one needs. We caregivers must take care of ourselves, only then can we be what is necessary for our loved one. Bless you my friend, Chaz

  13. I remember when dad had his accident and was in a coma and never came out of it before he died. Larry and I had determined that we would take care of him no matter what but he only lived a week and a half. I guess all God wanted was the commitment that we would take care of him. Some times he does that.

    But when Larry was diagnosed with Leukemia I did care for him although in the early stages he was quite independent which was good for His self esteem. Later on when he could no longer drive his own vehicle he sold it to his brother. Then he got a scooter he could drive around the little town we lived in. And that helped him to have some form of independence. I determined I would do all I could, as long as I could and then I world have no regrets. There were some things i wish I had or had not done but of course that is hind sight.

    I guess what I’m trying to say is if you are a caregiver be careful that you don’t take away the independence of the one you are caring for before they need it. Some times its painful to watch them struggle with things, dressing, daily care, opening things, etc. But I know with my RA I try to do things myself and then if I am not able then I ask for help. I think that keeps a person feeling that they still have value.

    So I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum. Neither one is easy but God gives the strength to do what is necessary. Sometimes I think it is more difficult for the caregiver watching the one they are caring for than the one who is being cared for. Just some observations. I used to pray, God I need help with this or that but lately He has encouraged me to pray, God I need You! Not help, not strength, not wisdom, etc., just You! Really changed my perspective! I guess when we have Him we have everything we need!

    I am sure, unka Chuck, you have experienced all of these things taking care of Nancy for 15 years plus but maybe others that are in the same place haven’t and I think it is important to share ones experiences so others may benefit.

    Anyway, that’s my story and I do somewhat understand and very much appreciate your commitment to go the extra mile with Nancy and so happy for you that she still rerecognizes you. And so sad for those who don’t have family or family who care or even know how to care. My son is in that type of situation where he is caring for someone that had a stroke and the grown children are clueless as to how to care for their mother as she has done everything for them all their lives. I could go on, but I’ll cease for now.

  14. You know Linda, I have concluded that whatever we do for someone else willingly, unselfishly, and in love, Papa God smiles and accepts it as good and acceptable service. There is something about service to and for others that is so satisfying and I can just hear His words, “Well done my good and faithful servant…” Blessings on you my dear friend. Chaz

  15. You are blessed in many ways – Nancy beams when she spots you, still recognizes you. You are soon to be 85 and have a clear mind. You’re a talented writer – gifted with a life full of many rich experiences. You are blessed with friends but most blessed with the assurance that you have a loving Heavenly Father. Life is good.

  16. Dear Judith, ain’t it the truth! There are some few folks that just might question the clear mind thing, but I still know who I am. Papa God is so very good to us isn’t He? Bless you dear one. I remain your bro in love, Chaz

  17. Dear Judith, ain’t it the truth! There are some that might question that clear mind thing but I still know who I am, at least most of the time, and I know beyond the benefit of a doubt that our Papa God loves me. Blessings on you and yours sis, your bro, Chaz

  18. When I was much younger, about 13 or 14 and older, my grandmother had brain surgery to remove a life threatening blood clot and afterward she was placed in a nursing home. We would go see her every saturday and sometimes more often and I came to realize a harsh and terrible truth, the ones who get regular visitors are treated better than the ones that are ignored by family and friends! My grandfather would caution me about certain of the residents but I was young and had recently learned about the angels camped roundabout those who love the Lord for their protection!
    So off I went visiting, I found a man in a wheelchair who lost his legs to diabetes, he was a retired clown from Barnum&Bailey’s circus, the old guys grandpa cautioned me about all worked foe a guy named Al Capone in Chicago! That was really exciting for a teenage boy! They used to ask me if anyone was giving me trouble and then they would laugh, I think they were just teasing me! Talking to all those folks back then in the 1960’s finally made me very sad about all the know!edge,all the stories that would disapoear forever when they were gone! I could not help but think of “as you have done for the least of these” . I think I heard of someone who felt like that and they started going to nursing homes and recording these people so their knowledge and history would not be lost, God’s blessings on them one and all! Anyway Chuck, going the extra mile i well worth the effort because you meet such fantastic along the way!

  19. When I was much younger, about 13 or 14 and older, my grandmother had brain surgery to remove a life threatening blood clot and afterward she was placed in a nursing home. We would go see her every saturday and sometimes more often and I came to realize a harsh and terrible truth, the ones who get regular visitors are treated better than the ones that are ignored by family and friends! My grandfather would caution me about certain of the residents but I was young and had recently learned about the angels camped roundabout those who love the Lord for their protection!
    So off I went visiting, I found a man in a wheelchair who lost his legs to diabetes, he was a retired clown from Barnum&Bailey’s circus, the old guys grandpa cautioned me about all worked for a guy named Al Capone in Chicago! That was really exciting for a teenage boy! They used to ask me if anyone was giving me trouble and then they would laugh, I think they were just teasing me! Talking to all those folks back then in the 1960’s finally made me very sad about all the knowledge,all the stories that would disappear forever when they were gone! I could not help but think of “as you have done for the least of these” . I think I heard of someone who felt like that and they started going to nursing homes and recording these people so their knowledge and history would not be lost, God’s blessings on them one and all! Anyway Chuck, going the extra mile i well worth the effort because you meet such fantastic people along the way!

  20. Richard my friend, My Nancy is so happy when I spend time with her. I walk through the door and she looks up and when she sees me that beautiful smile covers her face. She doesn’t like for me to leave so I spend as much time as possible with her. Many of the patients sit in loneliness just yearning for family or a kind word. What you learned as a young man was invaluable and I am sure those folks loved the idea of your visits. Papa God was pleased my friend. Blessings on you pal, Chaz

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