By Charles Towne 

   “We are always getting ready to live but never living.”

–Ralph Waldo Emerson

Isn’t it high time we started living?

I was listening to Brendon Burchard recently.  He is young, articulate, and a presenter extra-ordinary.  He really has it all together.

He was talking about how important it is to reprogram the mind, to get rid of the inhibiting thoughts and old habits that restrain us, and keep us from realizing our dreams.

I was impressed by what Brendon had to say, an excellent idea, and one that most of us could benefit from.

And then something struck me!

I mean, it hammered me right, smack dab between the ears!

As important as it is to “reprogram the mind” how much more important is it that we REPROGRAM THE HEART?

“Wait now,” you might say, “just how in the world do we go about reprogramming the heart?”

We find a clue in Proverbs 23:7.  where it tells us, “As a man thinks in his heart so is he…”  This bible verse leads us to believe that the heart instead of the mind is the seat of our emotions.

Let me illustrate with a recent visit I had with a friend.  She told me that she and her sister had just had a falling out.

Already distressed over the recent death of their father, each of the ladies was in a very fragile mindset.

For whatever reason words were exchanged over differing opinions, and the ladies parted not on the best of terms.

Praise God, one of the ladies, after thinking about it, and feeling great remorse, went to her sis and tried to make it right, but, right or wrong, her sister wasn’t having any of it.

(Perhaps you have been there, I know I have.)   There is a part of me, maybe it is that ugly, brown, smelly lump of false pride, in such a time like this that has a tendency to cause me to moan and grumble, and to vow to never speak to the guilty party again, but then, if I were to do that I would likely never speak to ME again, due to the fact that more often than not, I have been the guilty party!

Nowadays, because I have yielded access to my heart to Jesus Christ, if such an occasion should arise, even though my first instinct is not exactly on the positive side, I suck in my gut, man up and endeavor to make amends.

Yeah, that’s right, I disregard instinct and do what I think Jesus would do.

Proverbs 15:1. Tells us, “A soft answer turns away wrath…”

(Hey, praise Papa God, I am learning!   I have been praying for a Christ-like heart and slowly but surely it is making itself known, at least to me, and hopefully to others as well.)

And here is where the reprogramming of the heart comes into play.

When such an occasion arises as that described above (hopefully it won’t rear its ugly head too often)  pray for the other party.  Accept your part of the responsibility and ask God to soften both of your hearts, and then… MAKE IT RIGHT!  Even if it means accepting full responsibility.   Yeah, I know, but pride never heals wounds, physical or emotional!

And this is so important, start thanking God for answering your prayer even before you see evidence of change.

Yes, thank god for healing as if healing had already taken place!

Oh yes, back to the sisters.  Praise God, They have made amends!

There is nothing noble or praiseworthy in what I am suggesting for, after all, it is just doing the right thing.

After all is said and done I suppose doing the right thing is the basis for reprogramming the heart… and really beginning to live!


Charles Towne is first and foremost a Christian. An octogenarian, author, journalist, wildlife photographer, naturalist, caregiver, and survivor, his life has been and continues to be, a never-ending adventure filled with possibilities never imagined. He has adopted the philosophy that to Live fully, laugh uproariously, love passionately, and learn like there is no tomorrow, is a formula for a long and joy-filled life.


  1. Awesome advice sir! In my opinion, when the heart is leading, it will shut down some of the things that the ego does to try and lead. I also believe that when we set our own wants aside and focus on those that we see struggling is when we truly do God’s work. Well written as always my friend, God bless.

  2. Thanks Don, In my experience, one of the most difficult things we are ever faced with is, as you say, setting aside the egocentric things in life. That is why it is so important to allow Jesus to take center place in our lives because then, and only then can we live a life of service. Blessings on you my friend, Chaz

  3. Wow! Great article!
    I guess I never thought of it like that, but yes…the heart does need to be reprogrammed. That is especially true when you read Jeremiah 17:9
    “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it.”
    Those are harsh words, but those are God’s words. He even goes on in verse 10 to remind us that He searches the heart…our heart.
    It is so important to keep ourselves, mind, body and soul in alignment with God’s word!! And thank you, Lord for giving us Jesus, to help us do just that. We can do all things through Christ, who strengthens us. But without Him, we can do nothing. Thank you Lord, for our salvation, our forgiveness and a reminder to daily work on ourselves to be more like you.
    I am grateful that love, God’s love, covers a multitude of sin. Thank you Lord, for loving us like you do!

  4. Dear CSG, And this is the reason why each of us, you and I, need to examine our hearts constantly, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. The world is so messed up and our only hope is Jesus Christ. His word tells us, “Out of the abundance of the HEART the mouth speaks.” And then our example lies in the following, “Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my HEART be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength and my redeemer. Thanks so much for the well thought out comment, Chaz

  5. By definition, the MIND of a human being is the part of the body that is looked upon as the center of intellect and the HEART is the center of emotion, feeling and intuition. We reprogram the MIND by education and experience but reprogramming the HEART requires empathy to understand and relate to others. Empathy is a gift from God and when we choose to ignore it and rely on “the facts” we tend to misunderstand the total message. A television commercial I heard long ago made its mark on me and it simply stated “to lend an hand you must first lend an ear” and in lending that ear we must put our ego in the back seat…

  6. Such a great article. I think the more we exercise softening our heart, the better we get at it. It feels so good (usually afterwards) to humble ourselves and make amends with people (even if it’s not entirely our fault). I love all the scripture references about the heart, to which I might add Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” NIV version states it in different words which I find easier to understand, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Also, Charles, I really love the picture attached to the article. Very beautiful. Thanks.

  7. Mike, well stated my friend. It is empathy expressed that we children of God rise above the average. Thanks so much for taking us a little deeper in perspective. Chaz

  8. Kristin, a genuine Christ like character comes to those that desire it with all their heart. so what I guess it really boils down to is simply practice makes perfect. Lord, please help each of us to walk as Christ walked. Touch us with grace that we may serve all with love. In Jesus’ blessed name we ask it, Amen

  9. Such good advice! Yes, things have a way of tumbling out of our mouths what we are thinking about as the scripture says and we don’t even realize how evil our hearts are usually until we say something we are sorry for and know we have to make it right if at all possible. Hopefully, we can practice Romans 12:2. “And be not confirmed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your heart”. How do we do this? Isn’t it by hiding God’s Word in our hearts? I have not arrived! I am still a work in progress but this brings me so much encouragement! God has all the resources we need in His Word! Thanks Unka Chuck for reminding us of these things!

  10. Sorry, I misquoted that text, it says, by the renewing of your mind. But I think our mind must be renewed before our hearts can respond properly, right?

  11. I really enjoy reading your articles, and “Inspiration” is another great one! The Big bonus is in reading all the other readers thoughts. I really like what Mike had to say, “reprogramming the HEART requires empathy to understand and relate to others. Empathy is a gift from God and when we choose to ignore it and rely on “the facts” we tend to misunderstand the total message.” This is so true and the one thing I need more of is Empathy!

  12. Linda, yep “And be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your heart.” Is it actually possible for me, in my own will, to transform my heart? Or, to put it another way, can I, in my own right, and for my own good, by will, or might, or right, or strength, change one iota of my character? I think not. It is only as I yield to God that I can hope to be transformed, or, by surrendering self to His will that I, a carnally minded human can possibly be changed. It seems to me that when we pray for a Christ like character, yielding all to Papa God, we will receive that for which we pray. Chaz

  13. Oh Don, man, you hit the nail smack dab on the head! This thing empathy, is a quality that only comes by the yielding and softening of the heart, and softening of the heart only comes by the power of God. All good things come from the Father and thus are we transformed into the likeness, and with the character of Jesus Christ. And thus we have hope! And if that isn’t comforting I don’t know what is! Thanks my dear friend and brother, Chaz

  14. Dear Kristin, as I read your comment again I was struck by an incongruity, and it is this: You say, “The more we exercise the softening of the heart, the better we get at it.” Wow, that is profound because exercising something, be it a muscle, or empathy, can only come by an act of our will, and, like all issues of Christian character, cooperation with the will of the Holy Spirit. And here is the incongruity–If we feel the need perhaps the realization of that need is already in our possession, within our grasp if you will! Remember, “All good things come from God, and He yearns to bless us with the very best gifts, of which I am sure empathy is at the top of the list. Chaz

  15. Hey EJ, i believe that is the principle that all Christians should follow. What a wonderful world this could be if everybody was letting the love of Jesus shine through them. Chaz

  16. George, thanks pal. I have every intention to continue the trend. If you have any ideas for future subject matter let me know and I will try to please. God bless you and yours, Chaz

  17. Thanks for the comment Gynrat, you are a great blessing! I’m guessing that you are much loved by those that know you. Much blessing to you and yours and may our Holy friend uplift you and bless you every day of your life is my prayer. Chaz

  18. And yet again you give voice to thoughts swirling in my head that I didn’t know how to express! It all fits together as you have pointed out so often, think of yourself, you usually
    end up with trouble, think about others and you often find a peace and completeness(?) of spirit that can only be granted by Papa God! Alas, we are human and so the struggle continues.I hope this is a case of practice makes perfect but as I struggle, I am reminded of the navy seal motto, “the only easy day was yesterday” Persevere!

  19. Richard, you are right on. Father, Let the words I speak be full of love and grace. Let my eyes see goodness and mercy, Let my ears hear the music of your voice whispering my name. Teach me, instruct me, hold me close that I may always feel your presence and share it with everyone I meet. Help me to never judge harshly lest I be judged by that same judgement. Thank you O Holy God, in Jesus’ wonderful and loving name, Amen. Chaz


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